🍡: Why You Rationalize Suffering as if It's A Virtue

We have all been there.

We have all gone through something difficult and come out on the other side feeling like it made us stronger.

It is natural to want to make sense of our suffering and to find meaning in it.

But is that always a good thing?

It can seem like a good way

On the surface, rationalizing our suffering as a means to an end can seem like a good way to deal with it.

After all, what is the alternative?

To just wallow in our misery and feel sorry for ourselves?

That does not sound like much fun.

And so, we rationalize.

We tell ourselves that the pain we are experiencing is just a necessary part of the process.

That it is making us stronger.

That it is teaching us valuable lessons.

And so on and so forth.

The problem with this way of thinking is that it can lead us to accept suffering as a virtue in and of itself.

We may start to believe that we need to suffer in order to grow and learn.

This can lead us to put ourselves in harm’s way unnecessarily or to stay in unhealthy situations because we think they are β€œgood for us.”

It can also lead us to become bitter and resentful people who see suffering as the only constant in life.

Be careful

Suffering is a part of life, there is no denying that.

But we should be careful about how we rationalize it.

Just because something is difficult does not mean that it is necessarily good for us.

Sometimes, the best thing we can do is simply accept suffering for what it is β€” an unfortunate but inevitable part of existence β€” and move on with our lives.